How To Beat The Coming Home Blues and Get Back On The Road Again

I know only to well what it feels like to have to return home with the dreaded thought of returning to the job/life/people we left for in the first place. The coming home blues has hit me hard in the past, and although I have never really found a complete solution to it, these are some things which definitely helped me upon my return to the “real world”.

In no particular order:

Don’t move back in with your parents – Although there is sometimes not an option financially, if at all possible don’t go back to living with your parents, at least not for too long. I found that after I had drained every last penny from my travel fund and returned home, returning to live with my parents just felt like one big step back. Don’t get me wrong, I love my parents very much, but when you’ve been used to the freedom of a backpackers lifestyle it can be difficult, or just not at all possible at times to have anything remotely like that back home. I managed to stick it out for about 6 months (I figured no rent would be good for the next travel fund) but eventually I had enough and moved into a flat share in the city. I was fortunate to find a flat sharing with a variety of foreign nationals who were over here learning English or backpackers themselves. Although I wasn’t travelling, I was mixing with other travellers and their friends, and meeting cool people to meet up with when they return to their home country and I hit the road again!

Do something constructive – While you’re home, you may as well do something constructive that will help you get back on the road again. That may just be something as simple as saving money for the next travel fund, but it could also be taking a TESOL or TEFL qualification so you can teach English abroad, learning a new language, training in another occupation that you can be location independent in, or putting foundations in place for things like a blog or website so you have everything ready to just jump on go when you have the chance. Trust me, if you are doing something constructive that could help you on your way to your next adventure, you will feel a lot better and it will also take your mind off things.

Have Fun – The worst thing I ever did when I first came back home was give myself zero social life in order to save for the next trip. It’s definitely a good idea to cut down on things if you do want to do the big save, but giving yourself a break now and again, or looking out for cheap student type deals in your hometown or city can allow you enough of a social life back home to stop you from becoming completely miserable. I know from my experiences that when I’ve sat in on my computer or watching TV, time just drags by even more. Look for freebies or places that don’t charge for entry. Even if you live somewhere that doesn’t have much of a scene, go for a weekend away in another city or country even, using a service like Couch Surfing where your expenses will be reduced, but that will still allow you to have a break from the 9 to 5.

Discover your own town or country – One thing that travel made me realise was that I had seen more of other countries than I had of my own. I’m not sure if that says more about me or my home country, but with all this spare time on my hands and not much money to go anywhere else, I decided to see my own town, city, and country while I was here. It was refreshing to see other parts of the place that I live that I would normally over look, being too consumed in the rat race. It may not be as good as experiencing a completely different country and culture, but it certainly gave me more of an appreciation for my home country than I did previously.

I’d be interested to hear anybody else’s tips for getting over the coming home blues. The only real cure for me has been to get back on the road again; however the above list has definitely helped me when I have had to return home.

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