What is the fascination with lying by a pool on holiday??

Maybe I’m weird (and I’m not ruling this one out) but I have yet to understand why so many people spend every day of their holiday just lying beside a pool. And I mean every single day. I don’t get it. It’s boring, usually too crowded, and if the be all and end all of your holiday is simply getting a tan then I’m sorry but your life is really boring! It’s true. I’m not saying you’re a bad person. It’s just time to accept the truth. Your life is not interesting.

So believe it or not I’m not usually one for casting judgement. These are not usually the types of articles that I write. I’m always the one who tries my best to see the other side of the coin and put my feet in the shoes of that person. Yet it appears sometime during this morning when this none-issue of sorts arose, I don’t know exactly what happened but something inside me just snapped! By snapped I mean I became mildly irritated. That’s about as aggressive as I get really. And by irritated I mean I sat quietly thinking about the people who piss me off rather than actually saying anything about it because well A) I’m a chicken shit, and B) I’m from the UK. The latter means that even if you punched me full force in the face I’d probably still say ‘sorry’ in case you took offence at me falling head first into your fist. In writing though I’m much more of a hard bastard. Well, not really, but comparatively to the me you might meet in person I’m a fucking rebel.

I just don’t get people who care more about how they appear to other people than the actual experiences they have. Because being honest here – the only reason why most people want a tan is to show off to their colleagues/friends back home that they’ve been on holiday. My opinion is just that I care more about enjoying the present moment than I could give a flying fuck about what someone back home (who I most probably don’t like anyway) thinks of my shit tan. Maybe it doesn’t help that I don’t tan well either…

But why does this bother me so much? Why can’t I just sit back and let the people lie by the pool while I go do other things? Well the truth is I can sit back and let them do their thing (while I do mine) without a problem. If they would just stop putting pressure on me to be like them…

To give you an example, if I want to have a lie in one morning after being out the night before I’ll have a lie in. In my bed. Where it’s comfy. Where I can get peace. Sitting on a hard deck chair by a pool full of screaming kids and with the light blinding in my face because there are no umbrellas left is not my idea of relaxing. If it’s yours that’s cool, go all out, have a blast – but it’s not mine. For that reason please do not make snarky remarks or ask incredulous questions as to what I’m doing with my holiday because I decide to have a lie in one day and get a good sleep. Especially when I’ve done more with my time and life than you ever have sitting on your deck chair sleeping as you turn that lovely golden shade of… pink?

Anyway, I guess what I’m saying is that I don’t care what other people do. Just don’t judge me because I was trying my best not to judge you.

Maybe I’m a little ‘crabbit’ today as we say in Scotland. I suppose I just get annoyed (from time to time) when I see people who are part of the problem that makes them unhappy, but who just can’t see in plain sight that it is their own actions that make them feel that way. It makes me more angry that despite their own lack of fulfilment in life they try to change you or others to fit into their mould of what they think life should be – despite the fact that you’re happy with your life and they hate theirs. For me these people are the wider cause of a lot of other societal problems in the western world – but I really can’t be bothered with another “how society is fucked” speech because I’ve been doing a lot of those lately and you’re probably bored of it.

Sometimes people piss me off. It’s rare. I’m usually a positive person, but today is just one of those days.

11 Responses to “What is the fascination with lying by a pool on holiday??”

  1. Mark says:

    My thoughts exactly! I would much rather be out exploring a destination than napping by a pool. Don’t get it.

  2. Rosemary says:

    Don’t let them get you down. Your living your life to the full, while they are wasting the best part theres doing nothing on holiday, because its a change from the monotony of doing nothing with their lives back home.

    I have a chip on my shoulder about this too.

  3. I totally get this! And now I want to do a blog post about it, too. Whenever people go on vacation, they go on cruises, or to warm islands, or at the very least, just to somewhere warm. I just do NOT want to go somewhere so I can lie on a beach all day! Now if I’m there anyway, or there is a nice beach wherever I’m traveling, I’m not opposed to a nice relaxing day by the water. But by a pool? No way. A quick dip and then let’s go do something! No one understands why I want to go to places like Antarctica or Iceland…

  4. Sammi says:

    Its a different type of travelling, like when you or I go somewhere we’re going to see what the place is about, and to be fair how often do you actually go to a sea side destination? We’re going to discover what a place is all about.

    What they’re doing is what the American’s call a ‘vacation’. I mean I totally do what you do, travel to places visit all the amazing bits, dig out for local food and what not. But… in November I am going on ‘vacation’. It’s my cousins wedding & I am a bridesmaid, we will spend one day doing the wedding, and the rest of the time we are going to sit by the pool and drink cocktails and read. And I am really looking forward to it! Because it’s going to be relaxing! And I haven’t had a holiday where I spent it relaxing for…. well, ever! Maybe I will get bored and need to go and do stuff, but at the same time. I am looking forward to knowing that if I want to all I have to do is move from a sun lounger to the pool.

    And like you say, that’s fine, but if anyone gives me hassle because one day I fancy doing *something* instead of lying by the pool, I will push them in. Book and all 😉

  5. I didn’t think there were many others who thought this way…I don’t understand sitting around a pool for an entire vacation either…especially when there are so many other things to do!

  6. Kristin says:

    Totally with you here! I could never sit next to a pool for an entire holiday. What’s the point of going somewhere else to sit next to a pool when I could do that relatively close to home for much less money…without the guilt of not actually using my vacation while I’m there? (Although I guess that people sitting next to pools don’t usually feel that guilt).

    Plus, I think people imagine you being more tanned after coming back from vacation than you really are. When I got home from Lapland, someone told me I looked really tanned and healthy. My skin hadn’t seen the sun in a month!

  7. Hey,
    Great article. I think it is a waste of a holiday just lying by the pool all day too but I guess when people only factor in a 2 week holiday to their yearly calendar, some just want to lie down, relax and get sunburnt 🙂

    Each to their own I guess..

  8. Phil says:

    I get what you are saying, and understand it because i am totally the same. But i also understand, that when people work hard, and i mean really hard, sometimes shutting down and doing nothing but lie by the pool and relax is the healthiest thing to do.
    So for all those workaholics out there, enjoy lying by the pool!

    • pete says:

      The final part of the bewildering puzzle. Working hard in a job (so hard you have to lie down for 2weeks!) Is stupid too!

  9. Hanniton says:

    I’m so glad I found this article. I relate to this in EVERY way.

    I’m 26 now. Since I was 18 it has been an annual ritual for my divorced parents and siblings to get together for a holiday. That’s all fine with me – but when it’s sitting by a pool literally for 2 weeks straight, in the middle of fricking nowhere, it seriously drives me crazy. But it’s not mainly that, it’s the fact that when I’m NOT at breakfast by 9am or sitting by the pool at 11am, the whole family goes nuts like “COME TO THE POOL, WHY ARE YOU IN YOUR ROOM?” And then they take it a step further as perceiving me being “moody” and “ungrateful” and that I “don’t love” them. And then it slips into emotional blackmail of “Dad never gets to see you”. And then it slips into “he must be on drugs”. And for what? For choosing to lie in my room past noon on holiday?!?!?! SO WHAT.

    I’m so tired of their bullshit. They can’t seem to understand that I simply don’t enjoy sitting in the sun for hours on end, doing absolutely nothing. Yet when I chill in my room in the morning it’s “wrong”.

    What bothers me most is, im approaching 30, and nothing has seemed to change over the years. Im so tired of being hostage to their deluded perceptions of reality.

  10. Ron says:

    Maybe some work on their feet all day (nurse, construction worker, clerk, etc)or maybe it’s one way of taking a break from every life’s stress that they face on a daily basis. Not everyone has mastered all the proper tools to deal with every situations in life. When they go on those vacations, they don’t have to worry about what to cook, child’s homework, work deadlines, work problems, problems with relatives, and the list goes on. They take a week to relax and energize. I find people that work on their feet all day want to just relax by the pool while people that are in an office all day like to go out and explore more. I have been on vacation where I just need to relax and not be on the go all the time and some vacation where I want to go and explore. I listen to what my body and mind tells me and go with the flow; to each their own.


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